Category: Essays

2018!!!

Oh man, 2018 is almost here so now it’s time for me to write a post looking back at the last year and looking forward to the future. The end of 2016 kicked off the hardest year of my life. This has been a year where it felt like all...

But what was she wearing???

TRIGGER WARNING This article or section, or pages it links to, contains information about sexual assault and/or violence which may be triggering to survivors. *post includes affiliate links I believe that a lot of the people who are defending abusers don’t actually realize that’s what they are doing. I believe...

One Conversation Isn’t Enough

“Did you wash your hands?” “oh!! No! I forgot” “alright go wash them” 30 seconds later “okay, they are clean” “soap?” “oh! I forgot!!” I have this conversation at least 15 times a day. One conversation about equality, about sexuality, about human rights, it isn’t enough. I have to constantly...

#believewomen

TRIGGER WARNING This article or section, or pages it links to, contains information about sexual assault and/or violence which may be triggering to survivors.   Tonight, I am angry. I’m actually feeling a whole lot of things but I’m reading the news for the first time in a few days...

Responding to Hate Speech

  “Here’s what I believe: 1. If you are offended or hurt when you hear Hillary Clinton or Maxine Waters called bitch, whore, or the c-word, you should be equally offended and hurt when you hear those same words used to describe Ivanka Trump, Kellyanne Conway, or Theresa May. 2....

“I Believe You and I’m Sorry”

Women (and some men) are using social media to share some of their most painful memories. Please believe them. Most people have a moment (or 12) in their lives when they realize, “I was wrong”. Right now might be one of those moments for you.  As women (and men) are...

When You Lose Your Voice

TRIGGER WARNING This article or section, or pages it links to, contains information about sexual assault and/or violence which may be triggering to survivors.   I was a good student in school. I didn’t hang out with people after school very often. I had never been around alcohol before college....

I’m Not Racist, but…

I have gone through 3 stages of racism: Stage 1- “I’m not racist, but….” My elementary school, middle school, high school and college were all overwhelmingly white. Each school taught almost exclusively white history. The churches my family attended were either completely white, or almost completely white. When I went...

Tell Me More About That

One of my favorite parts of college was when I was able to live off campus my senior year with my aunt. She is a strong, smart and amazing woman and I feel so lucky that I had the chance to spend that time with her. She taught me a phrase...

One Conversation Isn’t Enough

“Did you wash your hands?” “oh!! No! I forgot” “alright go wash them” 30 seconds later “okay, they are clean” “soap?” “oh! I forgot!!” I have this conversation at least 15 times a day. One conversation about equality, about sexuality, about human rights, it isn’t enough. I have to constantly...